Dear Female Founder,
Slow down. Take a deep breath.
I am so proud of you for being here, for showing up, for searching for answers.
This feeling you have inside tells you that there is more to life, and that you have tremendous potential. It’s real. Hold onto it. I promise you, you are here to create incredible things in your life. And even though sometimes you feel lost, beaten up, lonely and not enough, I want to tell you: everything will be just fine.
During our lifetime, we do a lot of silly things. We chase money for the wrong reasons, follow fame, go to places we hate and do things we have no passion for.
Like many of us, you may feel like you need to live up to other people’s and society’s expectations; doing things you should be doing, instead of doing what you want to do.
After a while, you might realise that all you want is to be yourself and to follow your inner desires.
But it’s not easy. It requires you to be brave, to stand up for yourself and to work on your inner self. Friends might try to drag you back to safety and call you crazy. You might hit walls and run out of money. You might start questioning and doubting yourself.
Most of the people around you are tempted to give up in this situation, but not you. You will learn to become stronger and better.
Eventually, you will discover a few things you wish you would have understood sooner.
- Fall in love with yourself and follow what feels good
You are an amazing and unique person. You have talents, stories, experiences and thoughts that no one else has. You are here to share your gifts with others, to create tremendous value, to serve people while creating an abundance for yourself, your family and others.
I know that sometimes you feel that you are not enough. Not good enough, not pretty enough, not smart or outspoken enough.
If you follow that negative voice in your head, it will make you doubt your gut, your decisions and yourself. It will unconsciously sabotage you financially and make you feel like you don’t deserve success, like you have nothing to offer. It will want you to give up on your dreams and follow others.
Don’t let it do that.
Instead, fall in love with yourself. Your face, your body shape, and the way you walk and talk. It’s you, and you are so beautiful when you are yourself. Self-compassion is a skill you have to learn to be able to endure all the ups and downs that life has to offer. When you do that, you will be ready to make decisions. Not out of fear, and not because you wanted to prove something, but because you decided to do what’s best for you.
This is where everything starts. No one should ever tell you how to live your life. You are the only one who truly knows what’s best for you. Look inside and ask yourself: What do I love doing? What makes me feel good? When do I feel in the flow? Then do that.
It’s not as easy as it sounds. It requires you to get in touch with your emotions. You can do that through practicing mindfulness and meditation (Headspace, the meditation app, is a good place to start). When you do it sufficiently, you will discover a space inside you that you can trust, which is solid, which is you. Do whatever it takes to connect with yourself. Once you know what you want, go after it with power and focus.
- Success is not what you think it is.
It has taken me a few long years to understand that following my own path and my own happiness is what really makes life worthwhile.
Overnight success does not exist. It takes years of consistent, committed effort to build something of value, whether that’s your business or your own personal development.
Examine your beliefs regularly and learn how to get rid of those that don’t support you anymore. Ask yourself today: What does success really mean to you and where do you want to be in one year, three years and ten years from now?
Find a mentor or a development programme, and read as many books as you can. ‘Awaken the Giant Within’ by Anthony Robbins has helped me tremendously. Exhaust all resources that are available to you.
- Sh*tty things happen. A lot. And that’s ok.
You will need to face a lot of tough situations on your entrepreneurial journey. Things will not go according to plan, projects will fail and some of your supporters will leave you. Don’t be harsh on yourself; know that this is normal. Think about what you can learn from each experience. Note it down, and then move on.
At the end, life won’t be at all as you imagined it to be.
So stop guessing and go experience. Breathe life in with everything it has to offer.
This project you have been thinking about for a while? It’s time to make it happen. You are unsure or not feeling quite ready yet? Let me tell you, no one ever is.
Close this book and ask yourself: ‘What is one thing I can do today to push my dreams forward?’ Now, go and do it. Do you feel the fear creeping up right now? Kick it in the ass. You will rock it, I know. That is just part of your nature.
And one day, you will sit in your rocking chair, look back at your life and cry. They will be tears of joy, gratitude, and an immense love for life. And you will remember that day when you decided to absolutely own your life.
I am so proud of you.
The Magic of “We Have Already Made It!”
I used to wake up with my hair on fire, perpetually anxious about my lack of progress toward my goals, feeling like a failure at the ripe old age of twenty-seven because I had not yet accomplished every goal I had ever set for myself.
I berated myself continuously.
What was the matter with me, I scolded myself, that I had not yet developed my business to the point that someone else wanted to purchase it?
Where was the empire I envisioned in my mind?
Even more to the point, why wasn’t I making my income goals on a consistent basis?
If I could only, I thought, get my business to the point where I was making three grand a month, every month, then I would feel successful. But oh, I fretted, would three grand be enough?
Better make it ten grand, or even twenty.
I could never do enough fast enough to suit myself.
Never mind that I was building a startup that some of the best investors in the world were backing.
Never mind that I had already proven my skills and talents to myself and others by developing other successful businesses.
Never mind that I was speaking at international conferences.
Nothing I did was ever enough for me.
I worked countless hours, at all times of the day and night, hardly ever taking breaks—much less days off—grinding it out.
The irony of it all is that I was working toward something that I thought would make me happy. When I achieve this goal or that one, I would tell myself, then I will be happy.
Success…. Now, that’s what this is all about, isn’t it?
I was chasing success as a racing greyhound chases that poor little bunny around and around the track.
Something had to change, but I didn’t know what.
Then one day, I was talking with my friend Amar.
At the time, Amar had just left his corporate job so that he could devote more time to building the SAAS business he and his partner had been working on for more than a year.
He was a happy chap about it.
The words slipped out of my mouth before I even thought them through. “I can’t wait for us to finally get there!” I whined.
Amar looked at me in surprise. “What are you talking about?” he said.
“We are already there.”
“What do you mean?” I protested. “I certainly don’t feel like we’ve gotten anywhere yet! I definitely wouldn’t call myself successful.”
He felt successful, he told me that day, but my thought at the time was, “What does he mean?”
The monologue in my head that day was really loud.
“How can Amar feel successful,” I wondered, “when he doesn’t have millions of dollars in the bank, when he isn’t leading a company that’s considered highly successful by the world?”
I didn’t stop there.
“Doesn’t he have any ambition?” I protested in my mind. “His face has never yet graced the cover of a national magazine, for Pete’s sake!”
What I was really thinking was this:
If you thought you had already made it,
wouldn’t you just give up on all your goals?
But afterward, something about what Amar said that day—and the confidence with which he spoke it—stuck with me and changed me forever.
The point was: He was happy. I wasn’t.
And it didn’t look like I would be happy any time soon.
Now that you have made it…
We all have a friend or at least we’ve heard the story about someone who has finally reached that point in their career they worked so hard to achieve for many years.
They have the money they’ve always wanted.
The world validates the work they’ve been doing.
They have approval and acclaim.
Finally they feel like they can breathe, and they wake up to live.
And they tell themselves: This is it.
They give themselves permission to be happy, to pursue their passions, to spend time with their family and take care of their relationships.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret now, so listen up. What if I told you:
You’re already there.
What if you don’t have to wait another moment? What if everything you’ve ever dreamed for yourself is right at your fingertips?
Let me show you what I mean. I want you to try something for a sec:
Close your eyes and take a deep breath.
Imagine that everything you ever wanted, everything you ever dreamed of, everything you’ve been working for so hard….
It’s already here.
You have overcome.
The years of struggle and sacrifice are behind you.
You have walked through all your problems.
You overcame them all.
You are successful.
You have arrived.
You are there.
This is it.
This is what it was all about.
All those years when you were striving, fighting, pushing.
Those struggles are behind you now.
You are here.
You have arrived.
There is nothing else.
There is nothing to wait for. You can be happy now, right now.
Nothing more needs to happen before you can allow yourself to just be, to breathe, to appreciate the moment.
You have proven everything.
You have proven that you are enough.
You have proven that you deserve love, attention, respect.
You have made it.
Go as deep as you like with this exercise. Imagine the details vividly.
How does it feel knowing that you have made it?
• How does your body feel?
• What thoughts are you thinking?
• How are you breathing?
Take another deep breath, then another.
Allow yourself to relish the feelings. Linger for a while
Now that you have made it what would you like to do?
What will you work on?
What will you do today?
When you’re ready, take a final deep breath and open your eyes.
Did you feel it?
That feeling of freedom, lightness, permission….
“But wait,” you say. “That’s way in the future….”
“I haven’t achieved anything yet.”
I felt the same at that moment when I was talking with Amar, but something has changed in me since then.
Despite my doubts in that conversation, I took a deep breath and asked myself, “What if he’s right? What if we actually have made it?”
I don’t mean in some imaginary point in the future, but NOW. Right here. Right NOW.
What if we are already successful?
Not because we have millions in our bank accounts; not because our faces are on the covers of magazines; not because we are rich and famous…
We are on our way. We are doing it. We are pushing, trying, growing, learning….
Allow yourself to consider: What if we have already arrived?
Something changed in me when I had that conversation with Amar.
The idea that we have made it rewired something in my brain. When it hit me, I felt a rush of endorphins. Happiness exploded within me. I felt light and free.
I gave myself permission to just be, do, create, love, give.
I had never felt such a sense of celebration before. I was overwhelmed with gratitude.
Here it is, I thought:
We have made it because we are on our way!
At a recent meeting of my mastermind group, I told this same story to my mastermind fellows. There were five of us. We had all worked hard during the day, but we were relaxing after our work, laughing over a few beers.
The mood was one of celebration.
We were celebrating the day, celebrating our businesses, thinking back over how far we had come.
But the story and the words I spoke that evening left my friends puzzled, and I know why.
“We are already successful! We have made it!” I told them. They were puzzled because…
…there is a paradox behind this story.
How can you think you have made it and still pursue your goals? Won’t you stop pushing, trying, hustling?
The Theory of Awesomeness
Vishen Lakhiani of Mindvalley talks about the “Theory of Awesomeness,” an outgrowth of countless observations of and conversations with some of the planet’s most remarkable people, among them Elon Musk, Richard Branson, highly regarded neuroscientists, revered monks in India, outstanding philanthropists, and well known personal growth experts.
He bases his theory on the notion that there is a special state of human existence which can be engineered, and that if this engineering is done properly, human beings can live as if the universe has their back.
The keys to this special state of human existence are:
• You must be happy in the now, while still having a vision for the future.
• You need to have goals—but these goals cannot be tied to your happiness.
• You must be happy before you can achieve your goals.
This is the concept that Amar was trying to convey to me that day.
There is an energy behind this mindset that he had already tapped into, but which eluded me at the time.
Can your mind handle the paradox contained in this marvelous insight?
You’re working so hard because you think the achievement you’re working toward will make you happy, but…
…you can choose to be happy right now.
Because the ride itself is the point, the whole point.
Now, something magical happens when you act from this state instead of acting from the state of thinking that something is missing or something is wrong.
Magic happens when you enter this space of “I have already made it.”
As a matter of fact, being in this state of already having made it, feeling happy, knowing in your bones that you have made it just because you’re on your way is absolutely essential.
Whatever you can do to get yourself into this state is what you need to do.
There is nothing, but nothing, more important than this.
Not the struggle, not the hardship, not even the problem-solving.
Allow yourself to know that you are already there.
The most beautiful thing about it is that when you consciously generate this state of being for yourself, the universe bends itself in your direction.
• You can enter the state of flow so much easier when you know you have already made it, and life will start falling into place for you. It will look like magic—but you’ll know you are the magician!
• You’ll begin to see that life always works out for you.
• You’ll act not from a place of fear, but from a place of love and acceptance.
• You won’t be driven scarcity but by abundance.
• You will follow things which are aligned with you.
• You will be solid within yourself, centered, grounded.
No matter what your mind may be telling you…
…your most important work is to get yourself into the state of “We have already made it”
and keep yourself there.
Once you have achieved this all-important state, your wildest dreams will start coming true. As a matter of fact, they will become inevitable.
You will achieve your goals faster, you will be more productive, and you will feel happier.
Even your physical health will improve. You will be more aligned with people and situations that are right for you; you will make better decisions, be braver, take more risks.
Isn’t that what we all want?
There is no downside. You can only go up from here.
I can hear your howls of protest now, but bear with me for a bit. We’re not finished yet, not by a long shot.
“How on earth,” you cry, “am I supposed to feel successful and be happy if:
• I work at a job I hate?”
• I am not happy?”
• I am constantly broke and out of money?”
• My business is not making enough money yet?”
• I am stressed and worried about how I will pay my bills this month?”
The secret is this:
• Really accept whatever is going on in your life, while
• Focusing on the things you can be grateful for and things which are going well, and
• Maintaining a strong, clear vision for your future.
Since I sometimes slip out of this blissful condition, this “special state of human existence” as Vishen Lakhiani calls it, I’ve developed some practices that help me to maintain my balance on this joyful ride I call my life.
It’s all in the practice of being in the now, while keeping your goals clearly in focus before you. Try these things for a few days and see what happens:
Practice feeling gratitude for everything in your life, even the small things, and even the things you might not like so much.
Really get into that feeling of gratitude and stay there as long as you can. With practice you can hold this feeling for longer and longer lengths of time, sometimes for days on end.
Keep your goals clearly in focus by visualizing your intended future on a regular basis.
It can also help to recite affirmations and regularly set your intentions. Learn more about how to keep your goals clearly in focus before you here. (insert link)
Meditate every morning without fail.
While meditation won’t solve all of your problems, it will help you to be in better touch with your feelings as they arise, to identify them and track them down to their source, and to choose thoughts that lead to more positive feelings on a regular basis.
When you meditate every day, visualize your intentions regularly, and practice your other positive habits, you will remain in a more positive state overall and for longer and longer lengths of time.
When you’re in that state of “we have already made it,” you will be better able to:
• Relax into each and every moment, enjoying the journey, trusting that everything is fine, and savoring life as it occurs.
• Notice that life always turns out fine for you.
• Be really clear about what needs to be done on any given day.
• Eliminate distractions and keep yourself focused on what’s important.
• Love yourself and your amazing life.
• Give love and support to your family and friends.
• Ask for and graciously accept help when you need it.
• Consciously achieve and maintain that special state of having already made it.
What do you think?
Have you ever had a moment of clarity that changed your life, such as the moment I had when I was talking with Amar? What happened for you then? How did that change your life?
If you have not had such a moment—yet—have you tried the exercise and suggestions here? If so, what happened for you? How did these practices change the way you see your life? How did they change what happened for you in your life?
Let us hear your miracles!
I have been telling my friends recently about the little thing me and my few close friends do every day to develop and keep the habit of being successful. We call it a success thread.
We call it a Success thread
It`s a simple email thread which we send to each other’s every single day which includes usually 10 things we are grateful for today, 5 successes from previous day and 5 goals we wish to accomplish today.
Success breeds success
Its premise is simple. We are creatures of habits. Research shows that those who participate in a daily routine are 3 times more likely to stay on their program than those who participate 6 days a week and fare 5 times better than those who participate 3,4 or 5 times a week. Therefore for the best results, use your program daily.
Additionally ”like attracts like” and “success breeds success”. The more you feel successful the more success will come your way. You cannot feel successful if you do not look for and acknowledge your successes. The successes can be major or minor it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you acknowledge yourself for whatever you did do.
Do not look for what you did not or did not get done or could have done better. That’s a loser’s way of looking at the world. Look specifically for the progress you made in the arena be it financial, business, health, fitness, relationship, learning, servicing or any other.
So we write everything from big wins eg.
- I made X sales
- I had a meeting with investor
to the tiny ones like
- I watched a movie and relaxed
- I made a delicious dinner.
Point is – you HAVE to write 5 or more no matter what!
We do it in an intimate group of very close friends. From time to time somebody will through an inspiring quote, scream whop whop and acknowledge others. And it does a few things for us
- Keep everybody in the loop even if we are not talking directly on what is happening with everybody else’s project.
- Motivate us and makes us feel good
- Makes us feel like a successful badgers every single day
- Pushes us to actually get something done to put on our list
Team Success Thread
We tried it also in a team settings and it worked just great. It raises engagement and accountability. For us as founders it was a great way to track our team which was working remotely in a softer manner than we usually do. Everyday everybody share the 3 things
- 5 biggest successes
- Biggest challenges and how you plan to overcome them. Do you need any help from anybody?
- 5 things you plan to accomplish on the next day.
On our weekly meetings we would do the same thing. Celebrate all the successes from the week from each person and review their focus areas for the next week. We loved and our team too. It is a great way to stay in touch and on track with what everybody is doing, keep transparency and keep pulse on all the challenges your team face on the day to day basis.
To sum up – the frequency of which I do this exercises is directly correlated with how I feel and how well I tackle every day. There is plenty of research showing that gratitude is one of the biggest factors leading to wellbeing. Starting the day with the positive attitude and knowing that there is so many things I can be grateful for sets the theme for a whole day. Feeling of being successful just naturally makes me successful the following day. What you focus on Expands.
What are your daily habits that are keeping your moods up and make you perform great?
“Your Playing small Does Not Serve The world”
Here is the thing. You came here for a reason. You have talents others might not and your playing small does not serve the world. Time to make some changes.
Making the leap for the life you really want might seem hard. But no matter what are your big dreams and desires you can make them happen. It will take time; it will take hard work but it will set you on the biggest adventure of your life.
My name is Aga and I am an average Joe –in polish an average Aga – I was born on the border at Belarus and I am from a poor family. I have no special skills neither amazing talents, but I know that me and every single one of you have something incredible to offer.You have natural talents, things you are really good at, things you are interested in, your insights and thoughts, your heart. But the truth is that most of us will never even get close to realizing their full potential.
The truth is that most of us will settle, will find excuses that the environment, parents, government, will blame others or will even sabotage themselves thinking that they don’t deserve it, that they are not good enough, most of us wont even have the energy to go after what you want, that later… eventually their creative and adventurous mind will get stifled and will stop fighting. Something will die inside them but they will get used to the certainty and stability they have. Do not be that person.
This is a quick guide for all the rebels, for those who feel inside their hearts that there is something more, that they are capable of more, that they want to give, serve create, that they want to make their life an adventure. If there is even a tiny bit of you saying that your life could be a bit better, that there is something bigger for you to do keep on reading.
So we all have talents and something to contribute. But successful people have something more than a talent. They seem to be in the right place at the right time, they have a drive, the passion, the right attitude, the determination and the desire to create, to grow, to succeed, have the energy but all the more they have the mindset that they can bring to alive whatever they desire. These are the people who believe and make things happen. I am sure you know them, they are usually happy, grateful for whatever is happening, humble, they are making small steps which adds up. From outside it looks like they are always getting what they want and everything goes smoothly for them. They are ordinary and extraordinary at the same time.
Whatever you will do
I personally chose entrepreneurship as a vehicle which not only enables me to realize my passions but also to serve people on a larger scale with the value I can provide. But this is not about setting your own business. This is about going after what you want. And I encourage you to find the most effective way to use your talents to serve other and contribute to the world.
Get Started? Create your own luck!
Nothing happens instantly. Life is a journey and one decision very often follow another. Here are a few things which were and still are critical for me on my journey and you should keep in mind when you are starting on your own journey. Whether you are it is important to be ready so when the right opportunity comes you can strike. They say that entrepreneurs are lucky. Getting ready means creating your own luck. Putting yourself in the right environment, with the right mindset with right people – and watch the magic happens. When these things are aligned, the time is right, the opportunity will be right – but most important – you will be ready.
1. Your mind will try to hold you back – Master it
Being an entrepreneur is a mindset, like adventure is a mindset, being grateful for what you are and where you are is a mindset. Success is a mindset too. So to get on this road to get what you want you need to get the right mindset. The right mindset is the mindset which will support you on your journey. A mindset which will tell, you can do it! Let’s go! Let`s Try And yes your mind will tell you million things, it will make you believe that you are scared, that people are bad, that this is not going to work, it will make you feel that you are not good enough, that you have no skills and knowledge. Learn to defy it every single time. Soon it will be under your command. Remember that you are the only one who can stop you from going after what you want. Most important create positive expectations!
I strongly recommend Anthony Robbins work or work from the Harv Ecker on using some of their exercises to explore your beliefs about yourself and the world as you perceive, challenge some of them and change them. Or even taking some of their courses to understand the psychology of success.
2. Cut Out A Crap/Noise
For a very long time I was a time effectiveness freak. I did not want to waste a second doing things which are not contributing to what I do and where I want to be. I would sleep in the office to save time and had headphones listening to personal development tapes every minute I was moving from one room to another. That was a bit extreme, but use your time to feed yourself with things which will inspire you, drive you forward and advance you as a human. Cut out the crap – your time eaters, the people who holds you back, TV shows. Instead relax watching ted talks or entrepreneurs, educational videos.. This will help you to stay in the zone, and when you are in the zone amazing things happen. tapes, videos, right people around will unconsciously get your mind to work and think about what is possible. I love watching ecorner lectures from Stanford University or Ted Talks.
3. Surround yourself with makers and doers
Hanging Out with them will enable you to become a maker and a doer. If you will spend enough time with the right people you will start thinking like them, and there will be no single conversations not including talking about new business ideas, solutions, and projects. Do not be intimidated if you are just starting – go to networkings, attend Startup Weekends, join groups and just listen. From all the groups I have been part of I have always found entrepreneurs groups the most inspiring – these are the people who constantly innovate, think forward, inspire – their life is one big adventures. Be around entrepreneurs and I promise you that your life will change.
4. Have tons of energy
Your lifestyle, your diet, your exercises – make sure you have tons of energy, you eat the right food, you train – you will need energy to make things happen. You need this energy to create, staregize, go our there wen you do not want to show up,
5. Set up your big Vision
This is what is going to drive you and keep you going. Your target, your dream lifestyle, this audition, or first passive income so can quit a job or go on and travel. Whatever it is make sure you do it for the right reason. If you just do it for the money – drop it- you time on earth is limited its not worth it.
There is lots of vision building and goal setting techniques, but you can simply ask yourself Where do you want to be in 10 years’ time? What kind of person you want to be? How do you want others to talk about you? How will you contribute to the world?
Make your vision big, make it exciting, and make it your dreamland.
So you know where you are going. Now commit to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to get there.
It will be a long bumpy road, but it will be filled with excitement. I promise you. There is no trying, there is no dress rehearsal, you are committed to making it happen. Whatever it is give your 150%. Make sure you are in to win! There is no way back, there is no try you do or you do not. You will find a way, and in the darkest moments you will find or create a way to bring about what you desire. These littl ssteps you will be doing at the beginning might seem so inisgnificant, bu have a trust in the process.
Just get out there and do it!
State what is that you want to do. Write down all the reasons why you want to do it. Make a plan – what needs to happen for you to get there. Go and get it.
What are the things you think should be added to this list?
What it means to Dare Greatly THE phrase Daring Greatly is from Theodore Roosevelt’s speech “Citizenship in a Republic.” The speech, sometimes referred to as “The Man in the Arena,” was delivered at the Sorbonne in Paris, France, on April 23, 1910. This is the passage that made the speech famous: “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again,
because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.
Owing our story, living our truth and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do. Let go of who you are supposed to be and embrace who you are
I recently came across a great TED video from Angela Lee Duckworth on the key to success. Angela talks you through her own experience from dropping a consulting, going into teaching math led by curiosity pursuing research aspirations to uncover the truth about what really makes kids, but also adults successful.
“In all the studies we did one characteristic emerged that predicted success. It was not social intelligence, good looks, physical health. It was grit. […] Grit is about living life like it’s a marathon not a sprint”
It strikes me over and over and over again that it`s that simple yet so hard.
Y Combinator is the legendary tech incubator responsible for Reddit, Dropbox, Airbnb, Scribd, and scores of other notable startups. When asked what made the difference between profit machines like Dropbox and catastrophic startup failures, Y Combinator co-founder Paul Graham had this to say:
“Several founders mentioned specifically how much more important persistence was than intelligence. ’I’ve been surprised again and again by just how much more important persistence is than raw intelligence.’” – Paul Graham, Co-Founder of Y Combinator
He’s obviously not alone in his assessment that grit (persistence … perseverance … whatever you want to call it) is a more accurate predictor of success than intelligence.
“The man who can drive himself further once the effort gets painful is the man who will win.”
– Roger Bannister
In retrospect it’s obvious. ”We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take,” as Wayne Gretzky said. Simple, right?
We are in the age where the performance psychology is seeing a big shift.
Now we do not only have a science backing up that all it takes is your preference, your determination – but we have tools and knowledge to teach it. There is no more excuse for not achieving your goals at any level.
And Duckworth is not alone in her science 1. It’s safe to say we’re witnessing an actual paradigm shift in performance psychology.
While this is intellectually interesting, what’s really exciting is the practical application. How fortunate that grit is, as Duckworth mentioned, a trainable skill. (See: The Grit Habit – free PDF that teaches Grit in a single page).
We can’t control how much “talent” we have. We can’t change the genetic cards we’re dealt at birth. But we can learn to persist in spite of all limitations. And now we know: that’s what really matters.
“A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
There is no doubt that Tony is the man if it comes to teaching people to deliver results. He has impacted millions of people all around the world mine including. I have been to many of his events and just recently when getting through my notes I saw a bunch of things underlined with my red marker with the note REMEMBER. Now I remember listening to the workshop on sales he was giving and how it totally changed the way I looked at the sales game. Here are a few insights from my note as much applicable to sales as to our own lives.
Tony has coached presidents, celebrities and Olympic athletes to perform at their top of their game. Putting the secrets above into action will improve your performance too. The mark of a great leader is one who is highly coachable. So let these ideas guide you to higher commissions, happier clients, and ultimate satisfaction.
These are my 5 favorite ones which since then I incorporated in my daily thinking and program my mindset.
#1 Know Your Purpose
Being present and knowing inherently why you do what you so will put you at peace. It`s so easy to get caught with daily tasks, routines, follow the pressure of our environments and people around us. But knowing why you do what you do can get you though the most tough moments in your life. Remembering why you are here, what is your purpose, what impact you want to have, what legacy you will leave, what values you represent what do you stand for is the most important question to ask yourself every day. Knowing your purpose changes the game, changes every minute of your life.
# 2 Give positive meaning to everything
You know these moments when somebody doesn’t show up or something goes wrong. We are thought to assume the worst. What if they do not like us, what if I di something wrong, what if … The truth is that there is so many things out of your control that wasting your precious energy for worrying about this things is counterproductive especially in your entrepreneurial life. Always assume the best, keep positive attitude no matter the issue. A big thing for me was realising that no matter what happens everything is perfect – and this is not saying that I am giving up trying and there is a force controlling my life. No. But there is so many things out of my control. Always do your best and expect great things to happen. If they do not try again. Everything happens for a reason. Always.
#4 Know that everyone is unique, different, and amazing
We are all awesome. We all have unique abilities, skills and talents and there is not such a thing as being better than anyone else. Especially in startup environment people have this tendency of thinking highly about themselves instead of humbly listening and learning from others. Looking at the world through the lens that everyone has meaning, everybody has a lesson to teach you, everybody know something you do not will positively affect every facet of your performance, your business and your own personal life. We all play in the same game.
#5 Be driven by your desire for adventure
I love this one and I try to practice its everyday. When you turn your fears into an adventure mindset things start becoming much more exciting/. The question here is though what drives you? Your past? Are you trying to proof something? Are you scared?
Wake up today and ask yourself:
I wonder what wonderful is going to happen?